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What traits in others are you attracted to?
Around The Kitchen Table – What traits in others are you attracted to?
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8 Responses to Around The Kitchen Table – What traits in others are you attracted to?
I love to laugh and have a fun time without having to rely on something like alcohol or drugs to do so. I love it when I can find a person that just enjoys life and does not need any assistance to do so. That is one reason why I was attracted to my husband and why we have stayed married so long.
I am definitely attracted to people that have a strong work ethic. Someone who makes a commitment and follows through on it. That does something because it is right and not because they need praise or attention. This would be another trait that I see in my husband.
I think I am least attractive to people who are self absorbed or narcissistic.
Nothing feels better than good humor. A person who can laugh at themselves and others and isn’t picky, nagging, grouchy etc is just a joy to be around –
Someone who is interested in others, genuinely, not just in themselves or looking over your shoulder to see what they could be doing that might be more fun than hanging out with you. One of those people who makes you feel that you have their complete attention – you are interesting and worth talking to and hanging around with, makes you feel so good. I have had friends of both varieties and no matter what their other drawbacks or good points are, the way they make me feel about myself is a deal breaker. I try to remember that when the shoe is on the other foot.
Something about being made welcome, and being welcoming, is very important to me. I love it when people tell me that they feel welcome and “at home” in my house – that is an important compliment. I have a friend who just lights up when you come over and she gets that teakettle going – with 3 young kids and a full time job she seems always willing to make time and to be delighted to see us – I LOVE that!
-Sense of humor tops the list, of course. I especially love it when someone is self-deprecating in an authentic way. Self-knowledge is pretty big with me. We all have faults. If someone can share their own faults in a humorous way, that is very attractive.
-I am always attracted to those who show compassion and interest in others. Also those who don’t rush to judgment, but take their time forming and sharing their opinions. On the flip side, I am not really attracted to those who are too PC or too afraid to come out and call a spade a spade. Maybe I’m hard to please.
-Smart people. I have a certain respect for intelligence. It’s not a make or break character trait, but one that I do appreciate when I find it.
-I totally agree with strong work ethic. My mom had that and it has stayed with me.
-Those who are welcoming – YES. On the flip side, I have experienced the opposite. My step-mother once invited us to her home (the one she shared with my dad) and and told us we could bring our own drinks because she didn’t buy soda. WTF? Who cares? I wasn’t coming over to drink Diet Coke anyway…. Grrr.
Kindness and sense of humor would top my list. A certain sense of…emotional generosity. Meaning not always thinking the worst of others and not always getting angry, especially about things that aren’t worth getting angry about.
Conversely, I’m put off by those who are quick to anger or judgment, or who have a sense that they are always getting the short end of the stick. I agree with Pam; narcissism is super-unattractive as well.
I love people who are easy going, thoughtful and considerate- compassion is a must. I love a good sense of humor- dry wit. Manners! I love people who are warm and make others feel at ease. I admire and need loyalty in a friend.
I can’t stand over-emotional (unless there’s a reason), quick tempered, dramatic types. Anything me, me, me is very off putting.
I like people who are straight forward and respects themselves enough to be honest, lives life with integrity and compassion.
Something about being made welcome, and being welcoming, is very important to me. I love it when people tell me that they feel welcome and “at home” in my house – that is an important compliment. I have a friend who just lights up when you come over and she gets that teakettle going – with 3 young kids and a full time job she seems always willing to make time and to be delighted to see us – I LOVE that!
sadstateofaffairs, that’s so nice. A long time ago someone told me that me that “good manners” was making everyone feel welcome and at ease. It always come to mind when I see someone getting snooty in social setting.
I like honest people, down to earth and straightforward. I’m drawn to intelligence and a sense of humor. Rude people tick me off, the ones that treat clerks and servers like servants.
A long time ago someone told me that me that “good manners” was making everyone feel welcome and at ease.
Exactly. My mom used to say something similar. It’s not really about knowing which fork to use first. Good for you if you do. That’s not the important stuff.
Nicely said, Darlene (and others).