I’ve been out of commission the past week, suffering from the worst cold I’ve had in years. When Saturday rolled around, I was also suffering from a severe case of cabin fever. It was a sunny day yesterday, and my husband, who has also been down much of the week with a cold, suggested we jump in the convertible and drive north to the Georgia Outlet stores and walk around. He was probably trying to determine whether or not my limbs still worked, since I’ve been sprawled out on the family room sofa with a box of Kleenex for days, moving only to reach the remote or place my cup of tea back on the coffee table.
The Outlet Mall is a mere 40 – 45 minutes distance from our home. I had the music blaring and we drove. Up the highway, and we drove, and we drove, and we drove. And an hour and a half later, I realized something was terribly wrong.
“Are we going to be there soon?” I ask my husband, in a tone that does NOT in any way say “Are you lost?”…Not wanting to spoil my day out, I kept it cool.
“Yep. Should be getting there soon,” he says. But I see him eyeing Ellie, the British woman who sits on our dash and says “recalculating” when we’re traveling to a new place and have missed our turn. We love Ellie, but she is quiet during this trip as my husband already knows exactly where he’s going, so he didn’t alert her to our destination.
Fifteen minutes later, my husband glides into a turning lane on the highway and points the car back to where we’ve come from.
“I thought it was just past the Helen exit,” he says. Oh, maybe he’s …dare I say it…maybe he’s LOST?
I am still calm and patient. The good passenger. “Hmm. I thought it was on Hwy 400. The 400 Outlet Malls?”
“Yeah, there’s that one. But isn’t there another mall?” Clearly we had a communication breakdown, so I won’t go any further with THAT conversation. But all was well. Now that he knew where we were going, Ellie could get us there. …Yep. Or maybe not.
We drove around–and I did truly have all the confidence in the world that eventually we would get there. And even if we didn’t, I wasn’t stuck on any plan. It was a sunny Saturday, and I was out of the house. I didn’t have kids to tend to or a deadline to meet. I was just enjoying the open road.
Two hours later, with a LOT of open road ahead of us (okay, was this the 3-hour tour?)…we turned around again. He looked at the map, again. It was almost 6 and I was getting hungry. Just as I was about to be the “less patient passenger,” a sign on the road caught my attention “Frogtown Winery,” with a finger pointing up the road.
“TURN!” I say loudly. “Wine!” (for those of you who know me…you know that if there is wine anywhere within a 50-mile radius, I will find it).
What we happened upon was a wonderful group of wineries in the Georgia Mountains. When we turned I saw another sign for Three Sisters Vineyards, with another finger pointing up the hill. We passed Frogtown, with intention of circling back, and followed the dusty road, and acres of vineyards to our right, to Three Sisters Vineyards .
When we arrived, the winery was closed, but a group of wine lovers were enjoying a bottle of Three Sisters Wine and told us that there was yet another winery just up the road that stayed open later. Maybe we should try there, they said. So we continued on our journey, dead end road after dead end road until we found Blackstock Vineyards and Winery. And what a find!
The winery was beautiful, with its wraparound porch and incredible mountain views. Inside the formal wine tasting was closing down, but we were greeted by a smiling face behind the bar who offered us small tastes (complimentary) of two wines and of course we could buy a glass and / or a bottle. I settled on a glass of their Merlot, which was really, really good. Having had Georgia wines in the past, I was pleasantly surprised. The Cabernet was also very good. And they served something called ACE, which is a family reserve named after their three children: Austin, Chandler, and Eliza. Very good!
After taking some photos, and downing some of their port wine served in a dark chocolate “shooter” cup (heavenly), we got very specific directions from the bartender and finally found the Outlet Malls.
Still excited from our winery find, we found ourselves less interested in shopping by the time we arrived. We spent 30 minutes at the mall, and then ate dinner at a nearby Mexican joint (fastest service I’ve ever had in my life), and then headed home.
Morale of the story is easy to determine: Be open for anything. You never know what gem you will find along your journey, if you keep your eyes open.
This week, I had a PLAN thwarted. A journey I was on took an unexpected turn. And yesterday was proof to me that just when you think you know where you’re going, even with the best laid plans in mind, the road not taken can be even more exciting. Go with it. Even when the destination isn’t what I’ve planned, maybe it’s because it’s not the journey I’m supposed to be taking.
It was a wonderful day. I was able to see beautiful countrysides, taste some new wines, enjoyed great conversation with the love of my life. I’m glad that I just let the day unfold, living in the moment — changed course.









Comments
11 Responses to Best Laid Plans
Gwen, great story. I need to remember this. I tend to be very…task-focused, and not really open to deviation from The Plan. Deviation makes me nervous. I need to remember to go with the flow more. If it were me there would’ve been a BIG fight in that car long before any wineries were sighted.
Great philosophy and attitude to have. I find myself able to go with the flow much easier as I get older.
Your story reminds me of the time that we were vacationing in New York City and rented a car to drive to Cooperstown to see the Baseball Hall of Fame. I can’t really remember the details but I do know that we missed an exit and we were on the wrong interstate . We did stop for directions and we had a map but no navigation system. Something went horribly wrong with our sense of where we were and where we needed to be ( I am usually pretty good with that) and we ended up practically in Niagara Falls. Miles and miles from where we wanted to be.
It also ended up not being a horrible experience. We were able to see a good portion of the beautiful state of New York, we ate lunch in a great little diner and we still made it to Cooperstown and saw what my husband wanted to see. It was an enjoyable day. We too just lived in the moment that day and did not get too upset with ourselves for missing an exit.
Pam / Jennie,
I’m TRYING to be more laid back as I get older. I think I still have a long way to go but it was almost a relief (that day) to just let go and let the day unfold. Giving up “control” wasn’t so bad after all.
I can go with the flow in the car as long as I’m not alone. If I felt lost and alone in a strange place I would panic. But with someone else I’m pretty mellow. When I was 16 and on vacation with my family we got lost in Orlando. My dad doesn’t handle being lost well. He panicked and acted as if we were going to have to live in Orlando forever. I laughed. I don’t handle unnecessary panicking well, obviously!
I love spontaneity- my husband does not. This sounds like a great turn of events Gwen. I’m jealous, I want to get lost and wind up somewhere wonderful.
The wineries in GA sound beautiful. What a nice find. I thought you might get discouraged after the first one was closed and am glad you didn’t give up. What a great day w/your hubby. I don’t get lost often. I can go w/the flow if I’m in control, but I don’t want to rely on another driver if we’re lost and going in circles. I want to enjoy the scenery while we’re headed in the right direction. It’s a good lesson for everyday, to try enjoy the most when are plans go awry. Nothing to be gained by complaining and not enjoying the moments we are given.
I know those outlet stores and I like the Black & Decker outlet. It is pretty driving there.
Nothing to be gained by complaining and not enjoying the moments we are given. – Lily
That’s a lesson I am destined to keep having to learn my whole life, I think. (I believe my IW profile confirms that one of my many imperfections is impatience.)
Gwen, great piece as usual. I almost felt like I was in the car with you all. Except you wouldn’t have wanted me there. Well maybe when you finally made it to the winery – I would have perked up then!
Anya, thanks! Too funny — “…you wouldn’t have wanted me there.” If you ladies knew how much I loved “being in control,” you would appreciate (EVEN MORE!) how nice it was for me to let go and just breathe.
The story tells me why you and Dave have made it together…..giving, loving, honoring each others choices and foibles…..beautiful story!
My cousin recommended this blog and she was totally right keep up the fantastic work!
Oh, I love happy surprises like that! Especially when you are at that point of thinking the worst, and then a little gift drops right down from Heaven!
Thanks for sharing this! Made me smile!
What a splendid reminder to let things unfold and savor the moment. Anything less is bound to bring about tension and worse.
I really enjoy driving around new places with my husband and hitting upon some cool shop or restaurant.
Happy Trails!