By Jennie
I was dumbfounded by a news story I read last week – an Alabama high school punished 18 students for violating the school’s dress code by showing up at the prom in clothes that were deemed too revealing. This isn’t what surprised me – schools certainly have the right to set dress codes for school attendance and school functions. The first thing that surprised me was that the students weren’t turned away from the prom, which seems to me like it would have been the most appropriate and sensible punishment. The students were allowed to attend, but were told that they must choose between a three-day suspension and a paddling as punishment.
Perhaps even more surprisingly, only one of the students chose the suspension over the paddling.
There is a lot about this story that confuses and disturbs me. First of all, I’m curious as to how many of the violators were male and how many were female. I would bet that it’s not the boys’ styles of dress that were deemed inappropriate (unless the odious “baggy pants around the thighs” style has actually made it to formal wear). I understand that it was probably girls’ attire that was the most in danger of being too revealing. But I don’t like that in our society, on the one hand young women are constantly bombarded with messages encouraging them to be sexy, but on the other hand when girls listen to that message, they are judged or punished.
Furthermore, the girl who chose suspension over paddling appeared to be…well-endowed. The dress that she wore may have passed the modesty test on a girl with a smaller chest. That doesn’t seem quite fair to me. I would have to guess that determining who was appropriately dressed and who was not, even with guidelines, was not an exact science. (I know that there was a determination as to how many inches above the knee skirts were allowed to be; I wonder if girls were checked out with tape measures at the door.)
Another question: I wonder how many of the students who chose paddling over suspension felt pressured to choose the punishment rather than miss three days of school that they may have needed in order to get the grade they were hoping for. The fact that the majority of the students chose paddling does not mean that it’s a reasonable punishment.
Again, I really, really don’t understand why the school did not simply send the children home to change their clothes. If what they were wearing was objectionable enough to get them punished, it seems to me that it was…dangerous to the moral well-being of the rest of the prom-goers to allow them to gaze upon these wanton hussies misguided youngsters.
But the biggest WTF is really just this: paddling? Really? In this day and age? On nearly grown children? I’m afraid to ask who administered the paddlings, and what sort of morality tests they had to undergo before it was determined that they were pure-minded to carry out an act that, after all, dominatrixes get paid big bucks (one would suppose! I have no actual knowledge of the going rate for a dominatrix!) to perform.
Last but not least, I wonder what the parents thought? If it were your child, would you let a stranger spank them?











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This FREAKS me out. SO disturbing. I agree- why weren’t they sent home???? Why would you paddle 16- 18 yr olds? I’m sorry but I think a freak is in the midst in their administration. I would have called my parents so fast their heads would’ve spun. In my elementary school paddling was done- which seemed insane to me then. If my child has done something so horrible you need to hit them with a wooden board- then you need to call me immediately and keep your hands to yourself. I believe that in my school parents had to sign a form that allowed or denied their child being paddled. I can’t imagine paddling in high school. It is beyond strange. Is there an interview of the admins or students anywhere online? I’m shaking my head big time on this one, dumbfounded ….. and squeamish.
It does strike me as sexually deviant behavior on the part of someone. I don’t object to a parent swatting a young child on the behind – especially if they are in eminent or potential danger. However, we are talking about young men being paddled on the behind with some type of board. This is just sick – and a punishment that in no way fits the “crime.”
I am never ceased to be amazed at the idiocy in this world. Why didn’t they send the kids home or make them get sweaters if they were so inappropriate. The students must have known what was expected of them. I do feel sorry for the girl who was well-endowed. I wasn’t paddled, but I was warned when a dress I bought for the first day of school ended up showing more than what I thought. It’s humiliating. I’m guessing this is a private faith-based school since they seem strict in appearance. Plus, the private Christian school I attended had this rule. In lieu of paddling, you could be suspended 3 days. It was about 20 ya, but even then, there was no corporal punishment in public schools. It was practiced, mostly the boys. I think getting caught w/gum was an automatic paddle.
I don’t want anyone hitting my child. I don’t think paddling is an effect deterrent for anything at that age. We were also made to do things like clean the school. Something like that works better.
Was this a public school? I thought corporal punishment had all but been banned. Weren’t the kids informed of appropriate attire? As a former teacher this really disturbs me. This is so wrong.
Jennie, I believe you said this was a public school? Can that be true?
I went to a Catholic school from middle through high school, but we were (thankfully) beyond the days of “paddling” and that was more than 25 years ago.
There is something very wrong with what happened here. I can see why some parents choose to home school.
My understanding is that it was a public school.
I think I read that 20 states still allow corporal punishment in schools. It boggles my mind.
Wow, 20 states. That is unbelievable. I feel like Anya, can’t believe this still exists. I believe schools should have the right to enforce a dress code. Just not by using paddling for crying out loud. Nothing good comes from that.
I did attend school at a time when Principals were allowed to put hands on students. It was wrong then and it is wrong now. I went to a rural school where 7th grade through 12th grade attended. To this day I remember walking down a hall way and around a corner and coming upon the Principal holding on to my brother by his arms and repeatedly slamming him into a locker and banging his head up against it. I was in 7th grade and he was a Senior. I believe my brother had talked back to the Principal. I was pretty traumatized by that and can still remember it like it was yesterday over 40 years later.
Now days, in the state that I live in, if I saw a school employee paddling a student I am mandated by law to report it.
Really, a public school? I never would have believed it. Wow. This is wrong. There should not be corporal punishment in public schools. It is good they have the choice to opt out for the suspension. And this is ridiculous? Swatting Seniors? These are young adults.
I am agreeing with all of you. This is crazy! Seems so disturbing on so many levels.
This is very unfortunate & I agree that sending the “inappropriately dressed” kids home would have been the CORRECT thing to do, not letting them attend & then “oh yeah by the way, come & get your spanking.”
Regarding the corporal punishment, I graduated high school in 2000 & if my memory serves me correctly there were students still being paddled when I was in junior high, however I believe it had been banned by our school board by the time I was in high school.
If they let them through the door, or didn’t send them away shortly after, they should have dropped it for this year. They could always have learned from their mistake and applied a newer, more clear-cut rules and a better enforcement policy in the hfuture. But paddling??? I even think a suspension is a bit too much.
I don’t agree with you, Jennie, about there being some sort of unfairness just because someone is well-endowed. Covering up is covering up. Just use more material if you need to.*
*Yes, I am flat-chested and jealous.
I love the color of the dress. She looked pretty. I didn’t think it was too low or revealing, but I did think it was a bit too short. Just a bit. Certainly not short enough to even send her home for, IMO. I also loved this newsy.com link.
I don’t agree with you, Jennie, about there being some sort of unfairness just because someone is well-endowed. Covering up is covering up. Just use more material if you need to.
I almost hesitated to say that because I could see where someone might disagree. I guess my point is that if one is buying dresses off the rack, a woman who is really well endowed has limited choices, particularly with something like gowns that are going to often be designed to show some decolletage. The same dress is going to look radically different (much more modest) on a small-chested woman than on a big-chested one. A small-chested woman can get away with a plunging neckline whereas a big-chested one is going to have cleavage in anything short of a turtleneck. It’s not like she’s deliberately dressing less modestly. I guess I’m just inclined to take that into account.
Jennie-
Its true, sometimes big chests are a royal pain. I remember dress shopping with my best friend in high school. The girl was an F. Good luck not showing any cleavage with those!
Paddling as a punishment for teenage girls?!
And a punishment for wearing clothing that is too revealing?!
The person who thought this one up is very sick in my opinion.
First of all if there was a strict dress code and it was not adhered to, I agree the girls (and/or boys) should have been turned away at the door and not allowed to attend the prom at all. And this dress code should have stipulated what was and what was not appropriate attire.
I went to Catholic school (both elementary and high school), in high school I didn’t hear of any physical punishment, in grade school we got the crap beat out of us by the nuns if we stepped out of line. I didn’t enjoy it, but it left no lasting scars either emotionally or physically for me.
But a ‘paddling’ in high school? I think that one I’d still be carrying around with me to this day.