By E. Umana
We’re in the midst of a raging recession with global reach, The economists are speculating on the possibility of a “double dip” recession. People have lost jobs, homes, cars, other property and the like, marriages are strained under the weight of mounting debts and other economic problems.
But there is one “industry” that is defying the economic gloom and doom and according to a report I heard on Fox News, that would be the online matchmaking services, some of the dating sites are reporting double-digit increases in the number of new members, they describe the rate at which people are trying to find a new partner as being at a frenzied pace.
It seems that, despite the sometimes high monthly cost, people want to reach out to one another and be together. In other words, they don’t want to go through this economic downturn by themselves.
Unfortunately, many of these people (not all) are lonely and not seeking a partner from a Godly standpoint, as in seeking their lifelong soulmate, partner, fellow worshipper, lover and co-parent of any future children. In fact, I believe many of these people are looking for someone to “hook up with.” Some of them will marry after many years of getting to KNOW each other in the biblical sense. Prior to marriage.
People are social creatures, they need to interact with other people. Despite the economy, people when interviewed, state the need to connect and not face all this uncertainty by themselves; but they also mention the advantage of having an almost unlimited number of potential partners to interact with and weed out the incompatible (the golddigger, the psycho etc.)
They have more basic information on the potential mate than they otherwise would meeting someone at work or from a chance encounter at the laundromat.
One can sympathize as these are lonely people who want companionship, and to share expenses in these difficult times. but it is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. No matter how bad the economy is, a relationship started out of loneliness, desperation or a desire to share expenses will not last in the long run.
Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife (or husband). Proverbs 21 verse 9 (NIV)
About the Author
E. Umana is an article,author and blog owner, his various articles on marriage and internet marketing are posted and repuplished in various places all over the internet. His blog is a christian blog called Christian Marriage Works at askme7.com. Quick Link: download his ebook “12 Marriage Killers”, a book on how to spot the behaviors that couples engage in that can create conflict and destroy a marriage.
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3 Responses to Dating: Misery Loves Company
Better to be alone than to be with the wrong person
I completely agree. I am a little jaded, but I have witnessed too many marriages where people make each other miserable. I can’t believe being alone is worse than that – ?
As for online dating, I think it is like anything – it depends how it is used and with what intentions. A lot of people that I know (mostly women) do use these sites with the intention of finding a true partner – someone who they can eventually marry.
I also agree that those who are seeking a relationship are hopefully doing so for healthy reasons – not just out of loneliness. There are many other ways to combat loneliness.
Thanks for the article. It was an interesting and enlightening read.
I have witnessed marriages where people make each other miserable but I am not sure that is related to marrying because of economics. I believe people end up in marriages that they shouldn’t be in because they were lonely at the time. If it is due to the recession – can’t they just find a roommate to share costs?
I use to think online dating was a joke but I have seen so many couples lately that have gotten together because of it.
I absolutely agree that it is better to be alone than with the wrong person. Because in the end your really are basically still alone and living with some one that you can not stand.
I absolutely agree that it is better to be alone than with the wrong person. Because in the end your really are basically still alone and living with some one that you can not stand.
Yes, exactly. I think it’s an even lonelier feeling to be with someone who is supposed to be your soulmate and not feel that connection or even feel hostility towards that person.