Comments on: Platonic Friendships With The Opposite Sex: Are They Possible? http://www.imperfectwomen.com/platonic-friendships-with-the-opposite-sex-are-they-possible/ Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:13:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: trixie http://www.imperfectwomen.com/platonic-friendships-with-the-opposite-sex-are-they-possible/comment-page-1/#comment-9972 trixie Wed, 10 Feb 2010 05:04:05 +0000 http://www.imperfectwomen.com/?p=4789#comment-9972 We are both married. My husband thinks its a hoot that it bothers her. He is from a family of 9 boys and they see each other all the time. My brother's kids are all grown up, or at least out of the house now. His youngest is away at college as a freshman, his son is a junior and away and his eldest is married with a child. He had this child out of high school and he and the mother did not marry. His wife is wonderful and accepts her completely. My kids are: junior away at college, freshman away at college and my son is 13. He and his wife do many things together. They belong to the same clubs like skeet shoot, snowmobiling, travel. She is an RN and works 3 12 hour shifts a week. She works from 6-6 overnight. We only go out just the two of us when she has a shift and usually no more than twice a month. We see each other as couples with our sister and 2 of my husbands brothers at least once a week. We do not involve our sister who is much younger than us. She doesn't even care that she's not invited. I guess she's used to it being that she grew up with us and we were a twosome back in the day. We are both married. My husband thinks its a hoot that it bothers her. He is from a family of 9 boys and they see each other all the time. My brother’s kids are all grown up, or at least out of the house now. His youngest is away at college as a freshman, his son is a junior and away and his eldest is married with a child. He had this child out of high school and he and the mother did not marry. His wife is wonderful and accepts her completely. My kids are: junior away at college, freshman away at college and my son is 13.

He and his wife do many things together. They belong to the same clubs like skeet shoot, snowmobiling, travel. She is an RN and works 3 12 hour shifts a week. She works from 6-6 overnight. We only go out just the two of us when she has a shift and usually no more than twice a month. We see each other as couples with our sister and 2 of my husbands brothers at least once a week. We do not involve our sister who is much younger than us. She doesn’t even care that she’s not invited. I guess she’s used to it being that she grew up with us and we were a twosome back in the day.

]]> By: Mary http://www.imperfectwomen.com/platonic-friendships-with-the-opposite-sex-are-they-possible/comment-page-1/#comment-9742 Mary Fri, 05 Feb 2010 08:39:26 +0000 http://www.imperfectwomen.com/?p=4789#comment-9742 Trixie I think it is wonderful that you and your Brother enjoy each other company, and enjoy going out. Since your Sister- In- Law seems to get jealous of your outing, I am wondering how much time your Brother spends with her? Does the time your Brother spend with you, take him away from spending time with his Children? Twenty three years is a long time!! Maybe she wishes your Brother would enjoy her company as much as he does yours. Are you married? If you are, how does your Husband feel about you and your Brother going out twice a week? Trying to put myself in your Sister-In- Laws shoes? I don't think I would like my Husband going out with his Sister, or anyone twice a week for 52 weeks out of a year. Let alone 23 years!!! Can they afford for him to go out twice a week? Is your Sister-In-Law invited to go out with you? Trixie I think it is wonderful that you and your Brother enjoy each other company, and enjoy going out.
Since your Sister- In- Law seems to get jealous of your outing, I am wondering how much time your Brother spends with her? Does the time your Brother spend with you, take him away from spending time with his Children? Twenty three years is a long time!! Maybe she wishes your Brother would enjoy her company as much as he does yours.
Are you married? If you are, how does your Husband feel about you and your Brother going out twice a week?
Trying to put myself in your Sister-In- Laws shoes? I don’t think I would like my Husband going out with his Sister, or anyone twice a week for 52 weeks out of a year. Let alone 23 years!!! Can they afford for him to go out twice a week? Is your Sister-In-Law invited to go out with you?

]]> By: Theresa http://www.imperfectwomen.com/platonic-friendships-with-the-opposite-sex-are-they-possible/comment-page-1/#comment-9738 Theresa Fri, 05 Feb 2010 02:52:37 +0000 http://www.imperfectwomen.com/?p=4789#comment-9738 <em>she doesn’t keep in touch with her own siblings. </em>She's jealous that you and your brother see each other more than once a year and probably wishes she had the same with her own brother, especially since he lives so close. The only person who can change how she feels about that is her. Is this just something you notice, or do others in the famil notice her jealousy, too? To get rid of jealousy, one must focus on bettering themselves, not holding grudges, etc. Your brother keeps doing things with you, so the good part is that she's not playing him against you. Or, he just didn't get suckered into her pouting if she does. she doesn’t keep in touch with her own siblings.

She’s jealous that you and your brother see each other more than once a year and probably wishes she had the same with her own brother, especially since he lives so close.

The only person who can change how she feels about that is her. Is this just something you notice, or do others in the famil notice her jealousy, too? To get rid of jealousy, one must focus on bettering themselves, not holding grudges, etc.

Your brother keeps doing things with you, so the good part is that she’s not playing him against you. Or, he just didn’t get suckered into her pouting if she does.

]]> By: trixie http://www.imperfectwomen.com/platonic-friendships-with-the-opposite-sex-are-they-possible/comment-page-1/#comment-9737 trixie Fri, 05 Feb 2010 02:14:34 +0000 http://www.imperfectwomen.com/?p=4789#comment-9737 I'm not sure what her objections are. This has been going on for 23 years so it's not a new concept. We are a close family and so we all see each other almost daily anyways. We have the big old Italian family where everyone lives by everyone, kids run back and forth, you never know who will sit down for dinner etc. She and I get along just fine but this one issue ticks her off. She is not Italian (not that it matters) and she doesn't keep in touch with her own siblings. her brother lives 10 minutes away and they only see each other once a year or so. I’m not sure what her objections are. This has been going on for 23 years so it’s not a new concept. We are a close family and so we all see each other almost daily anyways. We have the big old Italian family where everyone lives by everyone, kids run back and forth, you never know who will sit down for dinner etc. She and I get along just fine but this one issue ticks her off. She is not Italian (not that it matters) and she doesn’t keep in touch with her own siblings. her brother lives 10 minutes away and they only see each other once a year or so.

]]> By: Pam@IW http://www.imperfectwomen.com/platonic-friendships-with-the-opposite-sex-are-they-possible/comment-page-1/#comment-9716 Pam@IW Thu, 04 Feb 2010 07:27:51 +0000 http://www.imperfectwomen.com/?p=4789#comment-9716 <p>Hmmm. No I don't think any of my sister-in-laws would mind me going out with my brothers. Distance prevents us from doing so. That is kind of strange. What are her objections?</p> Hmmm. No I don’t think any of my sister-in-laws would mind me going out with my brothers. Distance prevents us from doing so. That is kind of strange. What are her objections?

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