Written by Lizabeth
Confession–I am not a gardener…at all. I am not inclined to enjoy
trudging through the mud early in the morning to water flowers, or digging
weeds out of the ground, or getting rid of the nasty insects which attempt
to ruin my garden.
Honestly, gardening never really appealed to me since it
seemed like a ton of work just for something that hardly anyone would pay
attention to. Plus there is that detail-oriented thing where plants need to
be a certain distance apart at a certain place with certain sunlight and
should be watered at certain times. In short, while I wish I had the
patience to watch sprouts turn into leaves, it is just not in my genetic
makeup to allow that kind of past-time.
That being said, over the past two weeks I have been working in my mom¹s
garden while she is out of town. We have lots of flowers (geraniums,
pansies, tiger lilies, roses, lilac bushes, lavender) and a
vegetable/fruit/herb gardens as well. Tomatoes, cantaloupe (just to see if
it would grow in Michigan), basil, cucumber, thyme, peppers… you get the
idea. Pretty much a lot of different things, most of which we have never
tried growing before. In the past, my mom has had great success with
tomatoes, as well as cucumber, so now it¹s fun to try planting something we
have never attempted to grow before just to see if it works out.
So my job was to make sure the flowers and plants were watered. No weeding
or bug killing necessary–just water the garden in the morning, and keep an
eye on things so the rabbits do not get away with destroying too many
blooms. Simple, right? Even a complete black thumb like me could not mess
this up. And I was partially right.
Granted we had some harsh rain which beat down the seedlings, so some
flowers look pretty beat up. Besides that, though, I realized the growing
process was occurring. One of the tomato plants has a bloom which will soon
become an heirloom tomato. My brother got my mom one of those ‘As Seen on
TV’ Topsy Turvy tomato planters which grows the plant upside down, and ours
is sprouting some small green tomato blossoms already. Our bell pepper
plants have some blooms, as well as the cucumber, and surprisingly enough
the cantaloupe is looking as though it may actually grow something edible.
Getting up early to water the plants, before going to work, was not what I
would call fun¹ until I noticed the visible changes in the garden. More
height to the sage, more leaves on the jalapeno plant, and more promise in
all those possibilities purchased at our local seed store.
I think now I understand why gardening is something my mom enjoys. It¹s not
just a bloom on a tomato plant–that tomato will become a marinara sauce
while we eat dinner and laugh together. The jalapeno will go into salsa we
can give to a neighbor. The sage might season some chicken for a nice
dinner with friends. Bell peppers, perfect for dipping in homemade garlic
hummus. This is more than just plants that require a lot of work with
little return. Now I can see the beauty of gardening and why patience and
persistence is rewarded.
My focus tends to be on immediate results instead of the long-term plan.
Tending my mom’s garden showed me that looking ahead at the big picture is
important, especially when I am so focused on the now that I lose sight of
the later. All it took was seeing that first flower on the tomato plant
to realize my perspective needs to shift. Being able to see things as they
may someday be will help me see potential in others and in situations which
may have otherwise been overlooked.
I am still not a gardener, but I have the feeling this revelation may turn
my thumb a greener shade of black.









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10 Responses to THE FIRST FLOWER
I loved your tale, Lizabeth.
When I was younger, I was definitely an instant gratification type of girl. I still have that in me, but gardening as well as getting older (and hopefully a bit wiser) has shown me that sometimes wonderful things take a little while to grow.
“Being able to see things as they may someday be will help me see potential in others and in situations which may have otherwise been overlooked.”
YES!
I can’t wait to hear about your garden in your new home. Will you be doing container gardening on your deck? I have so much to learn. I really have only been seriously gardening for the last couple of years. I always learn a lot in hearing from others so I hope others will weigh in.
I don’t mind at all the planting, or the watering, or the weeding, or the waiting for it to grow, but when it comes to bugs eating plants, or weed killers, or animals digging things up, then I lose interest!I like to do my part (planting, watering, weeding) and I hope God and Mother Nature take care of the rest, otherwise I give up, it’s not worth the effort to me if I have to start doing research on it and buying special products to nurture it! I know people that put more effort into raising plants and flowers than they do their own kids. I guess I’ll never be an avid gardener.
Thanks Lizabeth – it is always nice to think of the joy a garden brings to others!
Eileen – I’m with you on letting Mother Nature and God taking care of
things. Once I prepare the soil, plant and mulch, I’m pretty much just
a waterer and dead-header. I hate pulling weeds, but try to make it
easier just doing a little each day!
We just did our front beds – a new Japanese Maple, hydrangea, lilies,
irises (transplants from a backyard garden I will eventually tear out),
coreopsis, mini carnations, vinca, lambs ears, hostas, boxwoods,
asparagus fern, sweet potato vine (red and green), dianthus and mums.
I’m waiting for our hydrangea to bloom! I cut them and enjoy them
inside the house throughout the rest of the summer and into the fall.
We’re hoping for blue blooms this year as we’ve been feeding it
aluminum phosphate since early spring.
The only herbs we did this year were rosemary and basil. Nothing like fresh basil and cheese atop tomatoes!
This fall, we’re planning on digging out some grass and weeds along the
side of our house and putting a huge bed in between two oak trees. I’m
hoping to get some bulbs in, along with a few small evergreens and
fall-colored mums.
Nancy, your garden sounds so beautiful.
I really want to clear a space in my garden for a Japanese Maple. I just love them.
Thanks Anya -
The type of Japanese Maple we have is a little different than most. It’s green in the spring with little flowery buds, then it changes to a deep rust/red/maroon in the fall. It’s very pretty. Boy, they can be costly though! Worth every penny though.
HOnestly, it sounds like a lot of flowers, but they are so small right now – especially the dianthus and coreopsis. And, since I moved the irises from the backyard to the front yard, they are all “crooked” and leaning over. They usually go into “shock” when they are moved, but should be fine next year. And, they multiply!
Lizabeth, I can relate to your story so well. I’ve come to appreciate gardening slowly, and I think it’s something about being a city girl who hasn’t really had much connection with the earth. It really does kind of thrill me to plant something and see it grow. I keep meaning to try some veggies – we have plenty of space and it would be so nice to have produce right at hand. Right now we’re clearing out some past-their-prime daisy bushes (note, they are not really daisies, but are daisy-like and I can’t remember what they are called) and planting some dwarf fruit trees in their place. We also have plenty of patio space and I’d like to work on getting more large potted plants for those areas. I see all these beautiful colorful pots when I’m out plant shopping, and I covet them, but gardening is a habit that can get expensive quickly.
Lizabeth, it’s neat isn’t it?? I just love the feeling. I agree, it can seem like a lot of work and to some it’s not attractive at all. The planting is the hardest part for me and the rest seems easier. The only other headache it causes me are the bugs that always want to eat the green beans. It starts about mid-season. My mom makes this hot pepper oil. I take some of that, a little dish soap and mix it w/water and spray it on. It does well for keeping them from getting eaten for about two weeks or the next rain. Just a little misted on my feet last year and I could feel the burn. I didn’t get any green beans in this year. Everything else got in though. I get a lot of satisfaction out of growing some of our own food. Nancy, your landscaping sounds beautiful. Hydrangea is wonderful and really brightens a room. I love fresh flowers in the house.
I’ve always wanted to plant a garden, have beautiful window boxes, and weed free flower beds. Somehow I never get around to it. . . .
I am not able to really have a garden. I have quite a few outdoor plants and they keep me busy. If I had the space and was retired, I would surely have a garden. I love to plant pumpkins also and just watch them grow. They are beautiful and grow without much work involved.
Lisabeth I loved your story and how it ended with a little moral – sweet.
I love my garden altho I don’t spend the time with it that I should, it’s too hot here in the summer to do more than an early morning hour or so -I get enormous satisfaction from seeing it bloom, and on the gulf coast you can hardly kill a plant, keeping them from overtaking the house is more of the worry here than coaxing them along. When we moved here and I had to leave my little 5 YO Japanese Maple I cried. I could do without the house, but that tree was just getting gorgeous, we planted it when my son was born.
Anyhow we ALWAYS had a vegetable garden growing up, every summer at my grandparents they had a huge one, sweet corn, tomatoes (which we had for dinner on many a night!) as well as raspberry bushes and strawberries – my grandma would make strawberry rhuebarb pie, we had elderberries, too and she showed me how to make pies with that (tho I don’t care for it – sorry Gramm). But down here, I can NOT get a tomatoe to grow, last year we tried the topsy turvy, which was amusing to see the gyrations of the squirrels as they hung by one toe to reach over and steal my fruit but no matter what I do I can’t seem to get one to the table, or maybe one or two make it but the rest get eaten. Between the rabbits, nematoads, birds, squirrels, bugs and what ever else, I can’t grow anything to a stage of ripeness that would allow us to enjoy it. Fortunately we have a farmer’s market locally so can enjoy both the bayou with all its critters AND fresh organic tomatos. Or at least I like to think they are organic. They could be soaking in napalm, for all I know, I’m not sure how the local farmers keep the bugs and creatures off but I do know, short of a baby’s cheek, there is nothing I’d rather hold up to my face and smell than a fresh picked, firm, sun warmed, ripe tomatoe.
We do have basil in pots, and make fresh pesto with that, also tomato/mozzarella/basil salad drizzled with olive oil (also from the local farmer’s market and WOW what a difference it makes to have a locally grown fresh variety of oo, you could drink it like wine) and a big rosemary bush, it’s so wonderful on pork roasts or even to grill – my kids grill a sprig, then nibble on it. But everything else we have is flowers, I just try to enjoy the creatures since I can’t get rid of them and even spent one morning sipping coffee and watching our totally fearless little bayou bunny sit not ten feet from me and eat the heads off each and every blossom on one of my petunias – what would be the point of not letting him do it, he’d just be back when I went indoors – but I thought it was gracious of him to eat just the one.
The good news is, altho no tomatoes, I’ve never seen azaleas get the size of a tree before we moved here, our hibiscuses (hibisci?) are over the top of the garage, the lantana and butterfly bush are so huge and robust and bursting with blooms, and the iris and day lillies are gorgeous, fat and healthy, and all it takes is some water with the occasional Miracle Grow and dead heading on the smaller flowers – mother nature does the rest.