By Jennie
In recent years, when a celebrity has a child, the question usually asked after “boy or girl?” is “what did they name it?” Okay, that’s a common question, even for non-celebrities. But celebrities have gotten a reputation, perhaps undeserved, of being more…adventurous in their choice of baby names than the average American. There’s Audio Science. And Pilot Inspektor (what, because Pilot Inspector was too conventional?). And who could forget Moxie Crimefighter? It’s gotten to the point where the fact that Freddie Prinze and Sarah Michelle Gellar named their recently born daughter Charlotte drew comment. The name, while a bit old-fashioned, struck some commenters as surprisingly sane and normal.
Of course, as noted, it’s not just celebrities. I’ve heard a number of people scoff lately not just at unusual baby names, but unusual spellings of more conventional names. The ubiquity of “Mackenzie” as a girl’s name has given way to unique spellings such as Mykenzie and McKenzi. “Michaela” seems to be another one that has endless variants, including Mikayla and Mechaluh. It seems to be girl’s names that inspire the most creativity.
Not surprisingly, there is a backlash. It’s not hard to find someone who will tell you all about the disservice a parent does to their child by giving him or her an unusual or difficult-to-spell name. I’ve often agreed with this judgment in the past – it seems short-sighted and self-indulgent to saddle a kid with a name that they are going to have repeat (and spell!) for the rest of their lives.
Lately, though, I’ve been having my own backlash against the backlash. One thing that occurred to me was that, presumably, every name was an unusual name once. Somebody had to come up with your name at some point. Today’s common names were made up by someone or are a variation on an older name (as is the case with my name) – but then someone had to decide to spell it differently. There are no Mirandas in the Bible (even names in the Bible must have been made up by someone, somewhere, at some point). Miranda was actually made up by Shakespeare for The Tempest (Shakespeare made up quite a few names in his plays, many of which remain popular to this day.)
Plus, most Americans probably don’t want to go the way of some European countries, many of which place fairly stringent restrictions on what names citizens can give to their offspring. Denmark, France and Portugal, just to name a few, have customarily limited parents to a list of acceptable, traditional names, and parents wishing to go outside of these limits usually have to apply to a board or agency and give a justification for their choice. A New York Times article from 2004 references a case in which Danish parents were asked to justify by letter their reason for naming their newborn daughter “Molli” – the mother went to the court clerk and said “Here’s your stupid letter: The reason for naming her Molli is because we like it.”
The justification in these countries for infringing on what would seem to be a parent’s natural right to name their own child is that the state has an interest in protecting the dignity of the child in question. Even in the U.S., you would not be able to say, give your child an obscene word as their name, but that’s a bit different than being given a list – even a long list – of acceptable names, and being told that you have to choose from it, or having a court reject your child’s name (as has happened in Germany) because the gender of the child was not readily apparent from the name.
What are your thoughts on child naming – traditional or unique? Do you think there is some merit to the government placing limitations on naming, or do you think it’s none of the state’s business?










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18 Responses to What’s in a Name?
I really don’t mind unique names although I hope my sons will stick with more traditional names if they have children.
The first unique name that I remember hearing was when Frank Zappa named his daughter Moon Unit Zappa in 1967. As you can imagine, being 12 at the time and a product of the 50s and 60s where everyone was Sue, Kathy or Mary, I thought that was pretty cool. Frank then went on to name Moon’s siblings Dweezil, Ahmet, and Diva. I am not sure I would want to be called Dweezil.
Personally I don’t think the government should be allowed to place imitations on naming a child but I would like to see some sort of safeguards in place so that a child will not end up with a name that is offensive. Such as obviously offensive swear words. Maybe that is already in place.
I did not realize that European countries had such stringent restrictions but I can say I understand it after seeing what some parents have named their children in this country.
This is a great subject. Having a last name that must be spelled every time I give my name to someone (in my business that could be 5 to 10 times a day) I know how frustrating it is to have an unusual name. That is unavoidable. I do not expect a parent to change the family name to remove this daily nuisance. However, I do believe this practice of changing the spelling of a typical first name or naming your child some indecipherable hodgepodge of letters is a form of child abuse. For every Billy and Tommy and Mary, we are seeing names like Jamyee and Jhonny. To burden your child with a “cute” name or spelling to satisfy your ego that your child is “special” is obnoxious to me and should be ridiculed.
My two oldest daughter’s have rather unusual but not out there names..for my youngest we chose a more traditional German name(I let my husband pick this time). Unique, for Canada but not so in Germany. Would you believe it’s the youngest childs name that always needs to be repeated…and gets the “oh that’s an interesting name”.:) I did have a lovely older Dutch lady tell me that Rembrandt had a wife with that name & it’s not German but Dutch. The nickname that comes from shortening the name fit’s her to a T. I think it, was a great choice, hopefully she’ll think so too! My husband by the way has a first & last name that has to be repeated & spelled, so I guess we are used to it.
I have a simple 6 letter last name that is the same as one of our former President’s. I am still asked to spell it at least a few times a week.
I like lots of different names – it is not the uniqueness or traditionalness of the name that is key to me. The most important things to me:
1) the name should sounds harmonious (first, middle, and last name flow well) – a name like Sebastion Samson Benson sounds very discordant to me)
2) the name should not overtly create a great potental for teasing (Jack Black, Honey Dew)
3) the name should not typecast the child (naming your boy Rocky or girl Bunny suggests certain expectations for them)
4) the name should not be unisex for boys (I have known males names Carmen, Vivian, and Leslie and they all HATED their names).
Jeff said…To burden your child with a “cute” name or spelling to satisfy your ego that your child is “special” is obnoxious to me and should be ridiculed
That is kind of how I see it too, Jeff, although I think the ridiculing is best done with celebrities.
I don’t think the kind of restrictions European countries place on names will fly in the United States. We are too independent. I do think the type of parent who chooses a really out there name to satisfy their own ego is probably going to manifest other behaviors that aren’t in the child’s best interest going forward. The NAME is probably just the first problem, LOL.
Momsby, I do think a unique, somewhat unusual and pretty name is a gift to a child. It’s easier said than done and you do have to think about the last name (as Paige points out).
Paige, I agree with your guidelines as well.
Now I am trying to guess what Paige’s last name is!
Totally off-topic, I had a huge crush on Dweezil Zappa back in the day!
I can’t decide. I like both classic and unique names. I know so many little girls named Ava and Sophie. Even though I liked the name Ava I knew so many people were using it, I didn’t name my daughter that. I didn’t think it would be unique enough.
I don’t think it’s the states business to dictate what people can name their kids. That’s just too much.
FYI, one of my kids names is the name of a former US president…strange thing for a Canadian to do or so I was told by my late Grams:)
2) the name should not overtly create a great potental for teasing (Jack Black, Honey Dew)
This is the one that I really am against – your child’s name should not be a pun or a joke. I also don’t approve of naming twins things like Polly and Molly – they are individuals, not a matched set.
Though I really do wonder at the motives behind some of those “out there” names, I guess I don’t really feel qualified to judge unless it’s clearly a case of 2) above. Maybe “Audio Science” has some significance to the parents that I just don’t understand. I did know a Rosetta Stone and I thought that was pushing it, but she went by Rosey so it wasn’t *that* big a deal. I also knew a kid name Daniel Daniels and I did wonder what his parents were thinking. They didn’t seem that bright and they had several older children, so I kind of wondered if they just couldn’t think of any other names!
I like names that are different. Not too crazy but names like Abigail and Charlotte are boring to me (no offense to anyone who likes those names).
I’d probably choose a more unique name for a girl and a more traditional name for a boy.
I don’t necessarily want my kid to have a name that everyone in the classroom has though(boy or girl). I like a name with a good meaning that I also like the sound of. If a name means nothing, I’d probably steer away from it.
Great article Jennie. I find this subject very interesting. I had heard of one foreign instance where a child’s name was involved. I didn’t realize it was more countries than that. I became interested in this subject when I read about these people who named there children: Adolf Hitler Campbell, JoyceLynn Aryan Nation Campbell and Honszlynn Hinler Jeannie Campbell. I don’t know how it ever ended up. CPS had taken the children but had said they wouldn’t be removed for their name alone. I also remember reading a book (the setting was before the 70′s) and finding out it was often practiced in China to change your name due to an event/change in your life.
I enjoy our freedom to freely pick names for our children. Erin, I also enjoy a name w/meaning. I had never thought of children needing protection from parents who didn’t realize the importance. I had no problem w/Moon Unit. I have a huge problem w/the Campbells’ choices that are noted above.
I know a large family and the girls names are Sharlene, Marlene & Darlene! I guess some people don’t just save the matching names for twins…They are all in their late 50′s & early 60′s, I’ve often wondered if maybe this was popular at the time? I noticed the Dugger’s name all their kid’s with a J name, does anyone know the reason for this?
Momsby,
I heard Michelle say that they liked two J names for their first two kids, then didn’t want to make the third child feel “left out” so they gave her/him another J name (and like 15 more siblings, lol.)
I like traditional names, and I especially like using ancestors’ names or honoring someone by naming a child after him/her. Lily, I was going to mention the family that named their children Nazi names. I believe CPS first heard about them because the supermarket would NOT write Happy Birthday Adolph Hitler on the cake, or something like that.
I see almost 100 children in summer camp, and I have to deal with “special” spellings for the first week while I set up the sttendance. Oh well.
I know a kid who’s name is Seth Smith. Can you imagine learning to say that as a little oy. The th alone would drive you crazy.
“The first unique name that I remember hearing was when Frank Zappa named his daughter Moon Unit Zappa in 1967.” This is exactly what I was thinking when I read this Pam!
I think parents should have the freedom to name their children anything they want, aside from a profanity. The government should not have the power to regulate names, or anything else that infringes on our freedom.
My mom claims to have gone to high school with a Tom Katt and Kitty Katt. I would not do such a thing, but support the parents rights to do it. Before we had children my husband said he wanted to do something similar with our children. I would not hear of it. Thankfully he was kidding.
Great subject Jennie!
I don’t get the appeal to parents who choose really out there names. Our first child’s name has a special meaning bu tit’s is a classic that is coming back around. Our baby is due in 3 short weeks and we picked a name very early on. We love it.
In school I was surrounded by Amandas, Heathers, Jessicas, and Ambers. Everyone’s middle name was either Dawn, Nicole, Michelle or Marie. I appreciated that Samantha was few and far between but not unusual.
3 weeks! Can’t wait!
Oh, Samantha good luck! Nothing in the world smells nicer than a brand new baby:) ENJOY!